Wednesday, February 15, 2012


In our continuing reports on the death of Whitney Houston, I thought this story was a very very important story to add to the conversation. It has been my personal belief over the years that Whitney's ex-husband Bobby Brown has caught a helluva lot of hell & blame for so-called "turning her out on drugs". Which is just plain falsehood & bullshit!!! Whitney Houston was 5 years older than Bobby. Bobby Brown always kept his lifestyle & "activities" on the real, he never hid what the hell he was doing. He didn't have to he is grown. Unlike equally as grown Whitney who played the role of the high class pure pop princess. Whitney was drinking, smoking gunja (weed) & snorting that white stuff (cocaine) way before she even hooked-up with the man Bobby Brown, as those who knew her best have always reported over the years. So the blaming of Bobby Brown needs to cease & desist! Whitney was responsible for Whitney & Bobby is responsible for Bobby! PERIOD!! Those are my thoughts. Read the story below & tell us your thoughts.



Why we can't blame Bobby Brown for Whitney Houston's death

Why we can't blame Bobby Brown for Whitney Houston's death

Bobby Brown and his then wife Whitney Houston arrive at Vanity Fair's Oscar party at Morton's in Hollywood on Sunday, March 25, 2001. (AP Photo/Laura Rauch)

Even in death, the original perception of Whitney Houston -- that of something short of regal, befitting of a person with such a splendid gift of song -- continues to cloud reality.

It's a concept of Whitney Houston that even the real Whitney sought to counter. In her 1995 VIBE cover story, the now fallen singer flatly declared, "I come from Newark, born and raised in New Hope Baptist Church. All-girl school, mostly white girl, yeah--but this is what I am. This is what I'm used to. This is what I like. What you all may think it is, it ain't." To put it even more bluntly she said, "Whoever set this little story up before I got here, it's changed. It's different. I'm not Diana [Ross]. I'm not."

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She made these comments in reference to criticism of her that began when her relationship with Bobby Brown started in 1989, intensified in 1992, and has found its way back into the conversation in 2012 following her untimely death. Prefacing her position with "I'm not the one to be talking about black and white issues," Houston offered an honest assessment of the flack she and her then-husband were getting. She said, "But we all know who runs this whole thing -- we all know who's in power right? Well when they saw me they saw me as their little princess and [figured] 'She's going to marry a white man,' or whatever."

Perhaps it was about race, but it may have been more about pedigree. Regardless, people didn't like their princess being with a sinking R&B star known for arrests, lewdness and everything else antithetical to what made Whitney Houston such a global celebrity. To this day, many still don't get it and ask, 'How could she have married him?' The answer is as clear then as it is now: Because she wanted to.

That has never been a good enough answer for some, though, which always made Bobby an easy target. I imagine he's used to it, but there's something to be said about timing. Anyone who's been paying attention to the coverage of the megastar's death has more than likely caught on to the subtle and not-so-subtle attempts by various members of the press to link Whitney's death with him. Select Whitney Houston fans have used social media to chime in with their shared suspicions, writing such harsh comments like "Bobby Brown you took our diva and turned her into an addict."

It's not surprising people feel this way. Their tumultuous marriage and all the mental, physical, and verbal abuse charges that came with it, left a lasting impression on the public. As did the couple's ugliest public episode -- the reality series Being Bobby Brown, an inside look at how two troubled people co-habitate and engage in co-dependency. But no matter how conceivable it is for people to develop the perception that it's all Bobby Brown's fault, it doesn't make it true.

I love Whitney Houston and will forever appreciate the mark she left on the world, but nevertheless it's unfair to point fingers at someone as the source of problems that were long rumored to have been present before they arrived.

Following the end of their marriage in 2007, both Bobby and Whitney offered their perspectives on the relationship. Referring to her ex as "her drug" a candid Whitney told Oprah Winfrey, "I was so weak to him. I was so weak to the love." As for Bobby, he actually once accused Whitney of introducing him to cocaine, though in a separate interview acknowledged what truly led him to addiction. "I did drugs because I was lonely and thought no one cared for me. I take full responsibility for everything I've done. I'm just grateful to be where I am now."

Each response points to what typically spurs an addiction: A lingering pain and the desire to escape it.

Speaking with E! News gossip columnist Ted Casablanca, an unnamed "friend" of Whitney Houston dismissed talk of Bobby being to blame by noting, "It was Whitney herself. I think even she has admitted that. And Bobby never forced her to do anything. These were her choices."

Whatever is ruled to be Whitney Houston's official cause of death, it makes no sense to continue blaming Bobby Brown. We are responsible for our own actions and the consequences they yield. Instead of wagging our fingers, let her rest, let him grieve in peace, and let us just pray for those who remain in pain and who seek ways to cope.

(This story comes to us courtesy of & writer Michael Arceneaux)


Anonymous said...

It dan sho' do gotta stop shit! Bobby been smoking weed & drinking ol' girl didn't get her arm twisted by that nigga shit! She grown just like him or should I was grown. The man didnt make her smoke shit just like I aint making my ol' girl smoke weed shit she run to roll up faster than I do & its all good!Damn! Leave my man Bob alone!

Bro. Jaheem 2X

Anonymous said...

Agreed Nikki X By me, I'm totally with you on this here. JT

Didacus said...

Bobby is totally responsible for Whitney’s death. He just could never accept the fact the she was bigger than him. He wrecked her ego, hurt her emotionally and passed drugs to her until she was irrevocably addicted. Whitney was thinking: “this guy loves me”, he was thinking: “I’m going to make you smaller than me”. Not even at her funeral Bobby was able to accept the fact that she was at the center of the attention. He made-up a BS story about security so that he could just show up for a second and walk away…it was about Whitney and not about him after all, why would he stay in the church and pay his respects to her?
Had Bobby passed to Whitney roses, hugs and kisses as opposed to drugs, we would have had so many other beautiful songs to listen to; we would still be listening to her beautiful and even more mature voice.
The matter of fact is the most people in this world know at least one song by Whitney Houston, and the majority of people don’t even know one song by Bobby Brown.
It is so sad that such a unique and beautiful human been like Whitney ended-up in the arms of evil. She was too good, too talented and too naïve to survive in this world.

Anonymous said...

Didacus you are a fan of Whitney Houston and that is your option but please wake up! The woman was 5 years older than Bobby she was a crackhead a alcoholic and at least bobby always kept his real unlike whitney who played the role and lied in every interview claiming she didnt smoke and yada yada BULSHIT!!!
Whitney lost her life not for being naive but for smoking crack and blaming bobby. Who gives a shit whether anybody knows and bobby brown song??? Have you checked out whitney's last concerts from 2010 on youtube?? LOL! Hell bobby brown could sing better than her. She smoked her talking and singing voice out! the fans were booing and demanding their money back so wake up! I like whitney houston in the beginning but she hooked up with bobby cuause she loved him period he hooked up with her cause he loved her period! check out that reality show Being Bobby Brown and then come back on here and tell us bobby held agun to whitney's head and MADE her acting a damn fool & do drugs! Naw whitney acted a damn fool & did drugs ALL ON HER OWN!!! thank you very much!